Feature Writer Steven Famiglietti – Working Out the Kinks
A very interesting thing happened to me over the past two weeks. I have been taking Meyer for his daily walks and he has been slowing down as we’ve done these walks. I found myself becoming frustrated with this behavior and a few times, I shouted to him to “hup up,” which is the command to walk faster. This did not work at all! As this happened, I started getting after Meyer about every little thing he was doing as we walked. The walks became a time when I felt angry at Meyer, angry at myself, and wanting Whitlee to come back to me. All of this frustration and anxiety made for an unpleasant bunch of walks together.
I dropped Kathy, the field rep, an email which explained Meyer’s slower speed. Kathy replied and said she would be out to see us the next day. Upon her arrival, we sat down and had a talk. Kathy reminded me how difficult the transition between dogs can be and she reminded me not to get angry, or to shout at Meyer. She asked me to immediately take my mind into another place when I thought of comparing Meyer and Whitlee. Before we started our walk, Kathy instructed me to be very excited, happy, and enthusiastic with Meyer. She asked me to rile him up, to scratch him, pet him, and to get him really jazzed and excited. After this exercise, we began to take our walk.
The first thing she noticed was that my hand was bouncing as we walked, which caused the harness to bounce on Meyer’s back. She stopped us from walking and showed me how to relax my elbow so that Meyer was not experiencing any more bouncing and she pointed out how this bouncing was very uncomfortable for the dog.
Instead of using the “hup up” command, she instructed me to give Meyer a little scratch along his lower back. This little trick made him immediately pick up his speed and off we went. Kathy reminded me to give him enthusiastic verbal praise for increasing his speed and she reminded me to also give him food rewards at various intervals during our walks.
The next morning, I woke up and did my usual morning activities, but this time, I played with Meyer, got him excited, and then started our morning walk. During the walk, Meyer kept a nice quicker speed and he was more excited and focused on his work. It sure felt great!
It is amazing to me how we can so easily fall into a place in life where we feel angry or sad. Suddenly, time goes by and we haven’t stopped these feelings and it is almost like it becomes the norm for us. I was so caught in a rut of feeling bad about retiring Whitlee that I didn’t even realize that this negative feeling was translating down to Meyer. I wasn’t appreciating him or accepting what he brought into my life, and that is really unfair.
I learned so many new things from Kathy and Graham at Guiding Eyes and now I have an entire toolbox of tricks up my sleeve that I can use with Meyer. This is supposed to be a new chapter in my life, where I experience new things, learn new things, and be happy with what I currently have. And now, I’ve learned that I can do all of that and still be thankful for the experiences from the past.